Student Development Theories in Action

This weeks discussion board had me in all the feels for my students.

The question was…
Student Affairs professionals job searching are often asked to describe what they identify the student development theory that shapes their work in the field.  If you are are asked this question, how would you respond?  Be sure to give a brief overview of the theory and why you believe this theory is the best one to use in student affairs work.

This is my personal take on this question.

Baxter Magolda’s Theory of Self-Authorship

Baxter Magolda defines self-authorship as “the internal capacity to define one’s beliefs, identity, and social relations” and answers the three questions, How do I know?  Who Am I?  How do I want to construct relationships with others?

 (Evans et al.,2010, p.184).

There are four phases in this theory towards self – authorship…
Phase 1: Following Formulas
Phase 2: Crossroads
Phase 3: Becoming the Author of One’s Life
Phase 4: Internal Foundation

From the start, parents usually have an large influence in where the students are going to college. I know I personally knew nothing more than Baylor… I grew up watching my father bleed Green and Gold why would I not also? I would not change it.. but I also did not explore much of anything else. I take this in account when working with students, especially in their sophomore year. This is where they start the “crossroads” phase usually. They are unhappy with their major, their boyfriend etc. what ever the crossroads may be, we as higher education professionals have to be extremely aware of this phase and help them form and grow into the next phase. Phase 3 is one of the most rewarding to be a part of as the students are develop their own morals, their own strengths. The pressure’s from high school start to loose grip and they become confident in themselves. I personally can feel close to home on this aspect also due to my parents and I butting heads plenty towards the end of college. Phase 4 is also amazing to me as I love lasting relationships and being intentional with my students and co- workers. This phase touches on being grounded in your own belief system. My mother to this day says, ” You are an adult and have learned to form your own opinions from your personal experiences.” I like to cling to the word GRIT in this instance.

After the reflection of this weeks discussion board, I would say to summarize how I feel this Student Development Theory best relates to me is that I am extremely passionate about the fact that in order to develop self-authorship, students need to build their confidence in all aspects of their life, building a foundation inner voice. I love nothing more than being a little piece of encouraging that inner voice.
“Students who worked with advisers who encouraged reflection in goal setting and intentional planning and discussed with students their nonacademic life experiences were more likely to develop abilities and perspectives associated with self-authorship” (Evans et al., 190).
goals
This weekend there is something special brewing in the air. It is #GAMEDAY… so after I sweat with Stephen this morning at 360 Fitness I will head to Houston to cheer with my faves on the #HoustonRockets Launch Crew.
Busy days are where I thrive and maybe it is just because I was awake at 5:00 am and could not go back to sleep, but God has been tugging at my heart and in my ear constantly lately. I am so grateful for a clear mind and heart to allow myself to start HEARING him more. He is always there but sometimes we allow ourselves to hear EVERYTHING but Him, and then blame him?! He is not answering our prayers? Why should he… do you believe with ALL of your heart? #humility
I took specific time to read in James. Mainly books 4-5. There is a lot in here that really hits the nail on the head so bluntly. Tyler House of Faith spoke on this last night too but more specifically in Acts 6,7,8…
I wanted to share parts of my morning that spoke to me most.
James 4 – Get Serious
1-2 Where do you think all these appalling wars and quarrels come from? Do you think they just happen? Think again. They come about because you want your own way, and fight for it deep inside yourselves. You lust for what you don’t have and are willing to kill to get it. You want what isn’t yours and will risk violence to get your hands on it.
Reminding me to practice being #dedicated to selflessness, grace and forgiveness.
4-6 You’re cheating on God. If all you want is your own way, flirting with the world every chance you get, you end up enemies of God and his way. And do you suppose God doesn’t care? The proverb has it that “he’s a fiercely jealous lover.” And what he gives in love is far better than anything else you’ll find. It’s common knowledge that “God goes against the willful proud; God gives grace to the willing humble.”
Leave your pride at the door. Do your job, and focus on nothing of this world but instead Him… reminding me to also practice #humility more often than not.
7-10 So let God work his will in you. Yell a loud NO to the Devil and watch him scamper. Say a quiet yes to God and he’ll be there in no time. Quit dabbling in sin. Purify your inner life. Quit playing the field. Hit bottom, and cry your eyes out. The fun and games are over. Get serious, really serious. Get down on your knees before the Master; it’s the only way you’ll get on your feet.
GIVE IT ALL TO HIM… stop dabbling…
Jame 5 – Destroying Your Life from Within
Be Patient
7 Brothers, be patient until the Lord comes again. A farmer is patient. He waits for his valuable crop to grow from the earth. He waits patiently for it to receive the first rain and the last rain. 8 You, too, must be patient. Do not give up hope. The Lord is coming soon. 9 Brothers, do not complain against each other. If you do not stop complaining, you will be judged guilty. And the Judge is ready to come! 10 Brothers, follow the example of the prophets who spoke for the Lord. They suffered many hard things, but they were patient. 11 We say they are happy because they were able to do this. You have heard about Job’s patience. You know that after all his trouble, the Lord helped him. This shows that the Lord is full of mercy and is kind.
Stephen or any of my Students at UT can tell you… Patience is something I have to truly, truly practice every, single, day. It does NOT come easy for me. But nothing good comes easy, and instead takes time to grow and flourish. #purposedriven
Let God Plan Your Life
15 So you should say, “If the Lord wants, we will live and do this or that.” 16 But now you are proud and you brag. All of this bragging is wrong. 17 And when a person knows the right thing to do, but does not do it, then he is sinning.
#GodsWillNotMine

Through this I was inspired to do a “5 Days of Dedication Detox” challenge, leaving all pride at the door and reaching out to others FOR accountability and to give it, to truly re position and re train myself to function how my DNA was created to. I will be sharing this event – if you want to join or more info on my heart let me know!

 

Jesus As A Moster

I have had some pretty cool roommates in my 26 years of life. I was extremely fortunate growing up to have two amazing parents in the same household, my mom and dad are absolute ballers and are a huge light not only in my life but in the lives of others. My sister, is one of the most beautiful and intelligent people on this earth; those three made awesome roommates growing up. The man who was my best man at my wedding and I had some great times together through college as roommates and I guess living with my wife now is pretty cool too? 🙂 But possibly the best roommates I have ever had live off a small dirt road on the outskirts of Waco, Tx. and are no where close to my age. They are 2 and 5 years old. Without a doubt the cutest girls you will ever see. “What is he talking about?” is probably where your mind is at right now reading this, that’s good. Moving on; in the months leading up to our wedding Maggie and I lived in different cities, I lived in Bellville and she was in Waco. During that time she stayed with our friends Lauren and Anderson, twins who have the two beautiful daughters I am talking about. The twins are night nurses, so Maggie and I would keep the girls when the twins worked nights. That’s why I consider them roommates. A little on their family: Anderson is now married to Jeff. I was asked to officiate their wedding, the second coolest thing I have ever done besides get married myself. I was so blessed to be asked to share in that special, sacred day with them. Their daughter is 5. Lauren is dating a man named Ben who I have been so lucky to be able to get to know over the last few months. She is the mother of the two year old. I love this family. Anderson, Jeff, Lauren, Ben and their little girls are a huge light in my life. Maggie and I joke that one of the hardest parts about being married and living in Tyler is not being able to spend every day with them.

When we would stay at the twins’ I wouldn’t really get great sleep. I was always worried about how the girls were sleeping and when one woke up Maggie and I would take turns going back in to their room (adding to my baby fever that I already have, but seriously) and pressing play on their DVD player, they love to fall asleep to Monsters Inc. When the movie would end the lack of noise would wake them up and they would cry and yell for us until we hit play to start the movie over. They LOVE Monsters Inc. I mean, I do too so I’m not complaining, who doesn’t love that movie?

Once again you may be thinking this story leads to no where, well, not entirely true. Remember when I said this blog was not about tiny homes but about Jesus, that was your warning. Here we go, open your heart and mind and get ready to dive in to some awesome stuff.

Maggie and I have found a church home in Tyler called House of Faith, we love it. A few weeks ago he started talking about the book of John. Chapter 1 one week, chapter 2 the next week, 3 the next but then, 3 again, and 3 again. Why? Because John chapter 3 gets extremely confusing. We all, regardless of what we believe in have heard John 3:16, “For God so loved the world that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” But there is so much more going on during that quote from Jesus than we think. In my bible right above the big 3 to introduce the chapter it says in bold lettering “The New Birth.” So, weird stuff. Even Nicodemus asks, “How can a man be born when he is old?” Lets skip down to Chapter 3 V. 13: Jesus says, “No one has ascended into heaven, but He (Jesus) who descended from heaven: the Son of Man.” So Daniel, the pastor of HOF goes in to this. No one has ascended in to Heaven, and seen it how He has, except the the one who came down from heaven, Himself, who is standing in front of a man named Nicodemus at the time of this conversation. This is part of the new covenant that Jesus brought to us today. We have to be baptized by the spirit, which is the full entity of God, in order to see the things that God intends for us to see. Without being baptized by the spirit we only see things how they are on earth. Jesus says, “If I told you earthly things and you do not believe, how will you believe when I tell you heavenly things?” See there are 2 realms we are living in, no not like Harry Potter. But look at Jesus’ death: Mathew 27:51, “and behold, the veil of the temple was torn in two from top to bottom; and the earth shook and the rocks were split.” What is this referring to? We have all heard songs that talk about a flood, a tidal wave crashing, a violent crash. Those were the realms of heaven and earth crashing into one another. Like a tidal wave does when it hits land, it is violent, it covers all, it drowns us. This is what Jesus’ death did. The realm that could only be visited by Saints a few times a year, the very portal to the Kingdom of Heaven, was once covered by that veil. When that veil ripped Jesus’ love, grace, mercy, that very realm in which He sits at the right hand of the Father was able to be accessed and be seen by us. Each and every one of us, we do not have to be a Saint, we do not have to be special. We can simply enter to this new covenant at any time.

These realms that have now been opened to one another provide a little more life in to what Jesus was saying to Nicodemus in John chapter 3. Jesus is in Heaven as well as with Nicodemus on earth. Now we have The Holy Spirit. See we were made, we are meant to be able to walk in this Spirit openly, look at Adam and Eve, they walked with God, literally. That is what we are made to do and what the ripping of the veil, the new covenant allows us to do. Let me break it down in to a super simple example, back to my 2 and 5 year old roommates and Monsters Inc.

The movie starts with Sully and Mike, happy go-lucky dudes, they work hard, treat others well, and seem like some cool peeps to hangout with. They work gaining screams in another realm to power their everyday life. They go about their days, Mike even goes on some dates and Sully is just the good ole boy working hard to help others. Then something happens. BOO! Boo happens. Boo scares this monster world, she flips it on its head. The monster world is thinking there is no way that this human can be here! Sound familiar? In John chapter 3 Nicodemus is so confused of who Jesus is. He knows he is directly from God but he can’t seem to put his finger on it. Jesus throughout his life turns this world on its head.

Mike and Sully don’t know what to do, do they tell anyone about Boo? Get rid of her? Well, for those of us who have seen the movie we know that they get to know Boo, then fall in love with her, then follow her, to where though? They take a chance and realize that there is something more to her than they can see. You see, Boo was able to show Mike and Sully a new way to live. They were stuck sneaking around a veil (doors) to get their fill to give to the world (screams). Are you following this? Much like Saints had to do before Jesus. Then Boo opened up a new way; laughs…. she made a way to where not just the “top scarers” could have this power but all monsters would be WELCOME in to the human world. They could get laughs which gave them SO MUCH MORE POWER THAN THEIR OLD WAY OF DOING THINGS. These realms were able to coexist and the monsters were able to thrive because they were now getting their identity from the RIGHT SOURCE!

So whats the wrong source? Randall… poor Randall. His ability to transform in to his surroundings is pretty cool but that sounds familiar to christians too right? The world looks good, the enemy knows our weakness’s and is able to dress things up, make them look good and we stumble and fall. Randall focused on the wrong thing. Screams. He never realized that there is a better way. There is another way that we can live in order to thrive. Randall in the story represents our carnal brain. Humans are without a doubt the smartest creatures on earth but we are faulted, we are broken, always have been. Screams were a great source of energy for the monsters. Just like our lives may seem good, we have a good job, a nice house, we’re comfortable. Our brain says why change these good things up? Never fix a good thing right? Wrong. Guys there is a better way, His name is Jesus. You see Boo had to come in to the monsters world and meet them in their lives, then bring them to her world to make them see that things are better on her side. Jesus does the same thing with us. He came down from Heaven, lived as a man and then called us to go with Him and see that things are different, there is more to this reality than we see. Just like the monsters only saw screams we can only see this world, until we follow Jesus.

So where do we go from here? How does the story end? It ends with Mike Wazowski, the green dude with one eye.  Mike was not a main character in the world of screams, BUT HIS IDENTITY CHANGED when Boo opened the door between realms.  Mike had a talent but it was hidden, not tapped in to because the world told him it was useless, he was funny.  Maybe thats you.  Maybe you have a great life in this world but feel stuck, sad, depressed, or even just feel that there is more out there.  Well, there is.  In Jesus YOU ARE A NEW CREATION.  In Jesus you are healed, held, and whole.  You have a purpose.

The world we live in is more broken than ever.  As we have seen with the election people are crazed around this country and around this world.  They’re looking for something, anything to fill them and make them feel like they matter and they have an identity.  Y’all the veil has been broken, you are free to enter into the kingdom of God and sit at His throne; it is there where you will find your identity.  Go there… Talk to Him…

Tiny Beginnings

I guess the title is somewhat fitting considering Maggie is 4’11 and I am 5’7, even though I claim 5’8 on a good day, or when I wear boots.  This is the start of something big.  Something that is written in Jeremiah 29:11.  “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

It all started with an argument, a lot of big decisions in our relationship begin here, it’s what happens when two extremely passionate people get married, your passions don’t cool off they are fuel for the other’s fire and sometimes that can clash.  We were driving around Waco, where we met and really grew up, talking about where we would live.  We were getting married in two weeks and had no clue where we were going to go.  We had the wedding planned, the honeymoon booked and that was about it.  While driving around Waco I got online and applied for all of the tiny home shows that HGTV had to offer.  We loved the idea of living efficiently and we both do not need much so we figured why not?  Thirty minutes later we hear back from a casting producer wanting to interview us and this tiny home idea took off!

Coming up with plans may seem easy when you are dealing with something under 300 square feet, WRONG! We quickly realized that in order for this not to feel like just a small space that we are forced to live in we need to utilize every ounce of space that we could possibly squeeze out of a trailer.  Bringing me to my next point, the trailer.  We had tossed the idea of a flatbed truck around, didn’t really like it. Then Maggie’s dad (#ThanksTim) said he had an old, and I mean old, flatbed, gooseneck trailer on some land of his.  This is a huge piece of the puzzle in the tiny home world.  It’s your foundation.  After getting wheels on this sucker, (with great thanks to Chris, Wendy and Brittany LaVergne; your wedding gift is literally the foundation of our home!)  we were able to use the help of a friend, Chance Feagins, to haul it to Brownsboro, Texas where the build would begin.

If you have not seen my version of MTV Cribs check it out! It is our first update and gives the layout on how we will build our home! MTV CRIBS – TINY HOME EDITION EPISODE !

This is the first post of many to come! BUT PLEASE DO NOT BE FOOLED, THIS BLOG IS NOT ABOUT OUR TINY HOME! Refer back to the little bio on us when I said there will be posts about Jesus, fitness and Baylor football (because that’s all we need right?) as well.  For all of my crossfit folks out there The Fittest Man on Earth, Rich Froning says; “Crossfit is what I do for a living but it’s not who I am, it is my platform to reach out to people…putting Christ first.” “He uses this platform to reach people in order to live their life for Christ.”  That is the sole purpose of this blog.  Maggie and I have a pretty abnormal, crazy life: from tiny homes to professional cheerleading teams I sometimes think we are more of the entertainment for our family than anything else.  Our goal here is to document all of the amazing and crazy things that happen in our life BUT that is ONLY to POINT STRAIGHT TO CHRIST.